grief + sadness can weigh us down
grief + sadness can weigh us down
here’s a mindful process that can help let go some of the dark heaviness…
Sometimes i forget to use the tools i’ve been given. And, it’s good to know that i have access to them anytime. Remembering can be a challenge at times though.
It’s been interesting of late… having both parents pass within 3 months of each other, (even though they lived apart for over 40 years), i didn’t realize the amount of grief i’ve been feeling + carrying for some time now—even before they passed over, that threshold to the light of who they truly are. They both lived a long life though both struggled in their latter years.
It hit me the other day, out-of-the-blue, recalling this blessed gift of ceremony of contemplation that i’ve been given and it has truly helped, once more. I feel much lighter, perhaps brighter. I do know that grief never really goes away, and i find it’s another dear process of life that i’m learning to live with.
And, so i’m sharing this powerful process, a blessed opportunity to offer presence… to be… stillness… inquiry… an easeful letting go of the heaviness… inviting the elements of cleansing salt + fire to offer support, deep relationship…
I share again with hopes that it can also help others. I have held a grief bundle for a while now and work with it when i feel i need to. (or remember to)…
This is a simple process... an old practice that can help honour our grief/sadness + release it through co-creation with the earth’s gifts of cleansing fire + salt through an easeful ceremony.
What you will need to gather...
a cloth - doesn’t matter what colour, though black is often used
a white candle or two (matches to light)
a small bowl of water
some salt - about 1/4 cup (a natural sea salt like pink Himalayan is good)
some small stones or one stone (from the earth that can represent your grief/sadness/fears)
anything else that you wish to include that represents your grief/sadness, etc.
Assemble all your items + to prepare/create ceremony…
(can be offered inside or out)
be in a quiet space and mindfully open + create a container of sacred space around you... whichever way works for you, as it’s important to ‘be’ in a safe space (ie., turn off phones, distractions, etc)
light the candle(s), which opens the ceremony
place the salt in the bowl of water + mix
spend some time with each item you have chosen to represent your grief/sadness/fears and when you feel ready, using your breath with intention, blow your feeling-essence into the stone... letting your feelings go to our Mother earth—who will hold those feelings safe within Her belly—through the stone
sit within the peace of quiet for as long as you need... knowing that the elements of salt water + flame will gently draw the heaviness of grief/sadness/fear out of your temple
when you feel complete, blow the candle(s) out - which completes the ceremony... and close your sacred space around you
your can either wrap your bundle or leave open on a place as an altar in a special place in your home
You can choose to offer this grief ceremony as many times as you feel you need to. And, when you feel ready, you can disperse the stones back to the earth by burying them, or by placing them in the ocean—which will also continue to clear that heaviness or darkness that no longer serves.
It’s an honour to share this simple, yet powerful process with you. It is my hope it can help during this time or anytime you are in need… and, do feel free to share, if you wish.
with much love + light,
weaver x (((💜)))
*some notes: ‘dark and heavy energy’ (like grief/sadness, etc) is not negative, positive or bad energy. It’s just simply ‘heavy and dark‘, and it can weigh us down. This type of energy doesn’t serve and often, it’s not even ours to hold.
See energy as either light or dark, and know the ‘dark’ can be released easily. We don’t have to feel we have to hold onto it. One of the many gifts our blessed Mother earth offers is, She can release that ‘dark’ energy on behalf, for us. She transforms it, like compost, back into Light—which is who we truly are!
*another note: re washing or what to do with the stone/stones after…
It’s up to you what you choose to do with your stone(s). Check in with them + simply ask. Sometimes stones have done their work and may tell you they need dispersing or not. Trust your intuition. They are the old, wise ones and the story-tellers of our blessed Mother, the land. And, they have much to share with you—if you only ask.
Connect with all your senses somatically, to hook in, ask and listen deeply. Remember, we all connect in different ways… some see, some feel + sense, some hear, taste, smell, etc.. etc...
Hope that helps.
I welcome your thoughts and feedback…
Did this process work for you? Anything else?
with brightest blessings of much love,
weaver x (((o)))